You Have To Make The Call To Your Friends

The one thing that I really do love about myself is that I am a friendship person. I love having a lot of friends. I actually have more friends than I had when it comes to relationships. My relationships are not even in the double digits yet. I love meeting new people that could possibly develop into a friendship. There is no limit for me. I love anyone that I can have an amazing conversation with. I will admit that there are times when it can get a little out of control. You're wondering what this person is doing because you haven't heard from them in a long time, but I do my best to keep it together.

I will admit one thing. You can't become my friend easily. Even though I have many friends they will tell you it took some time for me to fully trust them. I had that smile on my face all the time but I did not let it go that far. There are some people in this world who pretends to be a friend, and ends up hurting you in the process. So I make my friends carefully. Also, I will only be your friend unless you want me to. I know I can't please everyone. A simple confession that you don't want to be friends is enough for me.

One day, I was sitting at the computer, getting some work done as usual. I looked around my office and started to feel very lonely. I am always by myself in my office, but it really dawned on me during this particular night. I browsed on Facebook and saw some familiar faces along with old friends. I haven't heard from some in days, weeks, months, and years.

Here I am with these large groups of friends, but I was still alone at the end of the day.

I finally summed up the courage to email a couple of them, just asking how they are and what they've been doing lately. Some of them didn't respond back, which made me a little sad. However, there were a group of people that responded to my emails. They said what they were doing and they were happy that I contacted them. A few of them missed the charm that I brought into their lives and wished that they could hang out with me again.

All of those responses brought happiness into my heart. I truly missed them, but I was afraid they didn't miss me and moved on with their lives. From the way it looked, I received mixed responses. Some of them didn't respond, showing that they moved on and I've been removed from their lives. But there are some that miss me, just as much as I miss them.

I want this to be a message to everyone who reads me. We can't wait all the time for the other person to get in contact with you. Sometimes you have to send an email or dial a number to hear from them. I have a large group of friends and I wouldn't trade them for any person in the world. Even if I make new friends they will always be a part of life. I'll just have to find a way to slow down time.

So to everyone that reads this there comes a time in your life when you have to make the call. If you truly care about that person, instead of wondering how they're feeling, get in contact with them. Show them that you care. Let them hear your voice again.

Don't Judge It Until You Eat It

There is always a time in our lives when we would look at something and feel like turning the other way without thinking about trying whatever it is in the beginning. For some of us, we feel like we are over it. Then later on we realize that it is an ongoing battle that we have to face for a very long time. The only difference is that now it has become a moment instead of an ongoing lifestyle problem.

One day, I went over to visit my grandmother. I have an incredibly busy schedule that orginally took a toll on me visiting my grandmother before. She called me one time wondering why I haven't been visiting her because I used to visit her every weekend. But now, it hasn't become a problem and I now visit my grandmother every weekend.

She told me she made some stew if I would like to try some. She didn't even have to ask me. When my grandmother offers me her cooking, I am in the kitchen the next second. Everybody knows there is a current debate between your own mother and your grandmother's cooking. You be the judge.

I opened the pot and there I stumbled upon a stew I have never seen before. It was a combination of baked patatoes, mixed vegetables, ground meat, and spaghetti all together in one. I seriously wanted to burn all of it. I thought it was ugly and I thought it was going to be a disgusting dish. The good thing about me is that I am one of those people that loves trying new things. I am the experimental type. I like to keep my life fresh.

Even though I still had those tiny judgments about grandma's stew, I grabbed a plate and put some in microwave. I put it in my mouth and guess what? It was the most delicious stew I have ever had in my life. I felt so embarrassed that I dismissed the whole thing without willing to try.

This is something that I want everyone to do. Don't jump to conclusions and ignore a dish. Grab a plate and try it out. Who knows? It might be an amazing dish.

Does An Individual Deserves Infinite Chances?

I honestly don't believe that a person deserves infinite chances. No matter if it is a family member or your best friend it just doesn't feel right. When you have a person who hurts you the first time, it's obvious that you would give them a second chance. When they do it the second time you give them a third chance. Then the cycle goes on and they hurt you on purpose four, five, six, seven, and a hundred times.

It's kind of crazy to me what a human can go through and how long they can take it. Some people can take over a hundred hurts and they'll be alright. That is until they explode right in front of you. After all, a human being can only take so much.

There are individuals in this world who hurts you on purpose. Then they expect you to give them another chance because of this close relationship between the two of you. Mother, father, son, best friends, neighbors, and the list goes on and on.

When it comes to life, I can't help but wonder. Does an individual deserves infinite chances?

Bromance Denied, Wild Girls Granted?

One thing I noticed about going to a karaoke club is that everyone is welcome to go there. I am excited that I am at the legal age of go inside. When you walk inside a club you finally get the chance to say "Triple shot of Vodka." I am not twenty one years old yet, but I get excited every time they say something like that.

On this particular night, I began to raise questions regarding a recent incident. Everyone was completely sober in the room when I walked in. No one even took a sip of their drinks. This gave me a chance to see how people act when they are sober.

One hour after being in the room, the music started flowing nicely, and the drinks were coming from everywhere. This was the first time I ever had to tell someone ten times that I am underage. The next song that came on was Dynamite by Taio Cruz. Whenever that song came on, everyone goes crazy. Every time that song is played everyone is kissing each other.

Suddenly, the owner of the club started asking people to come on stage and show affection. These one group of friends decided to go up there. Two girls and two guys. They were dancing all over the place while I was sitting in the middle of the room, watching where everything took place.

Ten minutes later, the affection began. You can look at them and know they don't date the same sex. One girl and one guy were dating each other. The four of them has been best friends since childhood and were always not afraid to show affection in front of each other. The two guys kissed each other first. They were showing off true bromance. I turned around to see their reaction. Some of them were raising their eyebrows. Then the girls kissed each other and everyone went wild.

Three hours later, I walked out of that place feeling extremely confused. The crowd know that the two guys are just best friends, but they still felt a little disgusted that they kissed. As for the girls, they didn't mind it at all. Instead, they wanted to be a part of it. Once I got home, the incident got me thinking.

Why do people mostly want to see women act wild than men show true bromance?

You're In Love With Your Best Friend. Now What?

There comes a time in each of our lives when the ultimate question pops up once in our heads. One day, you will begin to look at your best friend in a different way. There are a couple of images that has never appeared in your mind before when it came to your best friend. Whenever they walk past you, you begin to get tiny butterflies floating in your stomach. What you're feeling is the ultimate debate.

You are in love with your best friend and you don't know what to do with it. You don't know if you should tell them or not tell them. It's the number one debate when it comes to friendships in our society. The main reason the question has become debatable is due to the fact that you don't know what is going to be the outcome after you ask your best friend the big question.

Across the world, best friends have been asked this question, and it ended in mixed results. On one side, the best friend turns out has been feeling the same way. It takes the stress off and the two of them ended up being together. Then on another side, the question completely devastated the individual and it resulted in the friendship being over for good. There are some friends that haven't spoken to each other in years.

When it comes to life, your best friend is the person that knows you inside and out. Even if you are close to your parents, this one individual knows you inside and out. They have known you for years. They have your back even when they know you are wrong. It's the one person that gives you the ultimate attention and you give it back to them in return.

But there comes a time in our lives when the ultimate question arises. The two of you have hung out long enough to have these feelings brewing inside. You may love this person, but falling in love has become a complete shocker in your brain. Now you are stuck, not knowing what to do with these feelings. Will the question transform this friendship into something better, or will it erupt like a volcano and burn to a crisp.

When it comes to friendships, what do you do when you find out that you're in love with your best friend. Do you tell them or not tell them?

Sloppy Joes Are Your Emergency Bros.

There comes a time in everyone's life when your parent's cooking are not good for one week. If you have parents that cook every single day, then consider yourself lucky. You only have to deal with one horrible day when your parents didn't cook a good dish. As for the leftovers, you can secretly feed it to the dog. But there are some of us who has parents that cook a platter so huge, it could last for a full week.

Last week, my mom cooked a dish that I was avoiding the entire time. I never liked this dish when I was a little kid and I don't like it today. I am not going to say what it was. All you need to know is that I didn't want any of it to touch my mouth. If it did I would've vomited it out my mouth, grabbed the entire pot, dump it down the sink, and change the plumbing system, so that it could back up when my mom is taking a shower, and she could have it all for herself.

Because of my mom's decision at a one week meal, I was stuck with wondering what I was going to eat for the next five days. On the first day, I was full of worries. My money from the film I did didn't arrive yet and I just finished paying off a couple of bills. Then in comes the solution.

I was visiting a friend that needed help with a food drive. They needed me to help pass out the food to a group of people. The food they were giving was sloppy joes. Everyone was satified with the food they were given, but it appeared to be too much. There were still three dozen buns and a whole pot of meat left.

While questioning what to do with it, something occurred in my head. I love sloppy joes. I can eat them forever. My mouth can bite the bun, and let my tongue marinate in the meat forever. That's how good their sloppy joes were. I have eaten alot made by different people. They made the best.

In the end, we made the decision to give them to me. I got two sloppy joes a day without any conflict. It was an amazing solution for the both of us. They satisfied their refrigerators by clearing up more space, and I satisfied my hunger for a whole week. Five days have passed and I was still getting sloppy joes. There were just so much left and I was the only person who was willing to eat it all.

My advice to everyone is to never turn down sloppy joes. They might come in handy when you least expect it.

Have Soap Operas Ever Touched Your Life?

My head is still wrapping around the fact that 90% of these soap operas are going off the air soon. It's still a shocker to me that it is all happening so fast. One show is cancelled in one year. Then the next year, two are being cancelled at the same time.

The one thing I like about soap operas is that it fulfills what all of us wish all tv shows could be. We wish they are daily shows. That was the one thing I love about it. Then as I started researching what goes on behind the scenes I completely understand why the shows are weekly. If all shows were daily, it would be alot of stress on the cast and crew. Screenwriters have to write fresh scripts everyday. Actors got to rehearse and shoot with only a few days for a break. The crew would sometimes have to sleep on set in order to stay updated on the upcoming tasks. Also, there is promotion and marketing, getting people into tuning back in to watch the show.

It truly is some hard work.

A few months later, I couldn't help but think about how soap operas have touched my life is some sort of way. The one thing they taught me is that all families are not scrapbooks. That's what I always felt like growing up. Once an episode of The Young and the Restless came on, I began to see my family's true colors. There was drama in every direction. I instantly distanced myself from my family because of it.

Ever since then, I started watching soap operas as much as I could. I always want to see what new type of stories they were bringing to the table. Everything is fresh and new to my brain and I feel mesmerized because of it. I feel like I am truly a part of the soap opera family.

Irna Philips, Agnes Nixon, and William J. Bell to name a few have brought us these shows that have spellbinding stories. We can't help but to sit out butts down and see what each of these characters are going through. As soon as you thought you got the whole story down, there is a new twist at the end of the episode. It's that devotion to the stories that made me fall in love with soap operas.

After watching these shows for quite some time, it got me thinking. Have soap operas ever touched you life?

When Was The Last Time You Finished Your Own Project?

I have been working hard on this own project of mine that I am so happy to have done. I'm happy because of so many things relating to this project. Probably the most important thing is that it's the first time in a very long time that I have managed to finished something on my own. Not because I was given a deadline. Not because I was forced to finish this in only few days.

I have finished something on my own.

When you read that one sentence, you begin to realize that a large amount of people (maybe even yourself) have gone through this struggle before. You spend days, weeks, months, or possibly years on this one project that you have felt excited about on the very first day you thought about it. Then you start going through the process. It's the first couple of days that feels like a pain in the butt. At times, you start to regret what you was feeling when you first started this.

Then as time go by, you begin to wonder if it's time to put this project to an end or continue going through the process until you successfully finish it. Once I was done with this particular project of mine, I began to realize that I'm not the only person who was going through that difficult.

The project can be many anything. When was the last time you finished reading a book on your own without having to stop halfway through the novel? When was the last time you went to the gym and took those two hours in there that you promised yourself? When was the last time you finished cooking that recipe in that book that you've always wanted to try? You can do things on a deadline or when you are asked to do it, but when was the last time that you've finished something all on your own?

It's that one question that you just can't shake off. There came a point in everyone's life when you chose not to clock ourselves the way we used to. The only thing related to a clock that we focused on is doing everything we can before the sun comes down. The brain turns out can be an ultimate frenemy. One minute, you are thinking about getting closer to finishing our own project. Then you are distracted once a clip of your favorite tv show pops up in you brain.

And yet, through all of those difficult challenges, 50% of us finally manages to put an end to whatever we've been working on. Once everything is done, you begin to ask ourselves that question all over again.

When it comes to life, when was the last time we've finished our own projects?

Do You Have A Gay Uncle?

I am not really a family oriented person. However, I do happen to run into family gatherings when I walk around the city. I believe I have walked past more family gatherings than coming to my own family gatherings. When I walk past these family gatherings one thing always sticks into my brain. There is a gay uncle walking somewhere in the background. You don't have to think twice about that uncle. He is gay just from the looks and the actions.

In the beginning, I thought it was a little bit shocking. No matter what family gathering I walked past there was always that gay uncle in the background. You would normally think it's your brother or sister. Then later on, it turns out that it can possibly be your uncle. If you happen to have more than one gay family member that isn't your uncle, most people consider it either shocking or lucky. For some reasons, I don't know.

After realizing about this, I began to think about families in general. We have so many family members around our circle. There are some family members that are small enough for you to invite to a party, and eat only half of what you made off the barbecue grill. Then there are some families that have so many relatives that you can't even count. It's cases like that when you wish you bought yourself a mansion so you can fit all of them in there.

Families can disagree on so many things, but there is one thing that doesn't even need to be disagreeable. There is a gay member of your family. As you look closely at the family tree, the one family member that turns out to be gay is always the uncle. There are brothers and sisters as well in this category, but uncles are starting to go off the charts.

Once I stumbled this during my research, it got me thinking. Do you have a gay uncle?

You're Never Too Old To Find Love

I said this once and I will say it again. I am a fan of romantic comedies and buddy comedies. I don't care what time of day it is, or even if happens around night time. I will sit there in the theater and enjoy myself.

The one movie that I can't stop thinking about is Something's Gotta Give. It's a romantic comedy directed/produced/written by Nancy Meyers. This is one movie that stand out to me. It centers around the lives of two people who's combined age is near the triple digits. What surprised me was that I am young man who is just entering adulthood, and I could totally relate to what these older people were going through.

I sat there in my bedroom, watching every moment that this couple went through. Even though I was young, their stories touched me. Here is this guy that is a total bachelor. He dates these young women that are decades apart from him. Then after a traumatic heart attack, he stays at his girlfriend's house, where her mother happens to be living in at the moment in order to get some work done. The girlfriend leaves for work. So the two of them are alone. They become good friends at first, but they suddenly get close.

Sadly, they couldn't be together because one of them has never been in love. So he doesn't know how to cope with his feelings. Once he finally realized what love was he fought to get the girl of his dreams. I know it's a very unusual plot, but you can easily relate to this story if you pay close attention to it.

The one thing that I like about this movie is that I hope it puts an end to what people say about love. They always say that they will be lonely forever once they reached thirty. Teenagers say twenty years old is old. There are times when I just want to slap them in the face. I am turning twenty this year and I can't wait for it to come. As I get older, I feel the growth inside of me. I become more responsible and learned more than I thought I would in one year.

So for all the people reaching their twenties, thirties, fourties, and fifties, you are never too old to find true love. Diane Keaton and Jack Nicholson's age was 125 combined by the time they received accolades from this movie. It's never too late for love to come into your life.

Below is the movie trailer of Something's Gotta Give

Are We Meant To Have A Grace?

Every person I know is a fan of Will and Grace. Even though the show has been cancelled for a years now, we have all the episodes on DVD and we enjoy watching the reruns on the Lifetimes network.

I am a Will and Grace addict. I can never get old this show. I can watch it forever no matter how many times I've seen each episode. But every time I see the show, I can't help but think about how this show reflects on our everyday life.

For the past couple of days, I have been walking around and paying attention to the people around us. Every where I go I see a reflection of the show. There is a gay man with his female friend, having an amazing time. Sometimes, there is also a man with a man, thereby reflecting the friendship between Will and Jack.

They do everything together. I see them out at lunch. They are at the bookstore sharing their point of views of whatever book they were interested in. I even see them at the gay club together enjoying each other's company.

I consider it extremely beautiful that we are living in a world where 98% of the world excepts homosexuality. Females love us and wants to be friends with us. Then after we become friends, it's like we've found our long lost sister.

Based on the friendship between a gay man and a female, I can't help but wonder. Are we meant to have a Grace?

Has Your Best Friend Become Your Career?

Are you the best friend? I am not talking about the ordinary best friend. I am talking about "the" best friend.

In life, we are given this one best friend who sort of have became your brother/sister. There is no conflict. There is no arguing. Whenever you guys hang out, you're enjoying each other's company and having a good time. Life can be very difficult sometimes. Sometimes, all you need is your best friend's voice to calm you down. You can vent until your body loses 80% of it's blood and your best friend will still be there on the other line.

Of course, there comes a time when arguing and disagreements occurs between your friendship. Life is not 100% positive. But if your friendship bond is that strong, you can overcome whatever comes your way.

Once you've realized you have a tight bond you begin to realize something else. You look closely at everything you are doing in your everyday life. If more than 60% of your life is surrounding your best friend you begin to worry if your life is being truly consumed by the needs of your significant other. They will call you at 4 o'clock in the morning asking for a favor. Even though it's early to be doing anything around that time, you will get out of bed and still do it. Because that is how much of a best friend you are. Before you know it, you are getting more than a dozen phone calls from that person and 50% of them revolves around doing favors.

In life, we count on our best friends to do everything for us. They come over to your sleepovers. They come to the club together. If you are that experimental you might even invite them for a threesome. But when do you take a second and realize that you've sacrificed a large portion of your life to be there for your best friend.

When it comes to friendships, has your best friend become your career?

Can Tops and Bottoms Truly Be Friends?

Here in the 21st century of our world, everyone has chosen to be versatile. A large percentage of the LGBT community doesn't talk about their sexual positions. They don't talk about because they are comfortable doing both positions. But for some people, they don't want to tell people if they are a top or a bottom. It is all a secret until they get down in the bedroom and reveal who they really are.

As I get older and meet more new and interesting people, I couldn't help but notice something that has been secretly going on lately. On one end, there are a group of tops. Then on the other end, there are a group of bottoms. It was like a clique that was secretly created. They are not even worrying about being friends with the other positions. The last time they attempted to become friends they couldn't avoid the sexual chemistry and ended becoming a two night stand night on the same night.

Looking at that reminded of the movie When Harry Met Sally. Through Harry's perspective, men and women can't be friends without thinking about having sex first. But yet, he was friends with Sally, a woman throughout the entire movie. Of course, they ended up having sex with each other, but it mostly happened because the other one was feeling comfort for the other person. The majority of us accepted that incident because we all knew that Harry and Sally were meant to be together.

That incident was kind of a reflection of that movie. Just add a little LGBT sexual chemistry and you have the movie right there in front of you. When it comes to two men being together, they can't help but go forward with the special feeling they have lying dormant within them. They don't know the reason on how it was being triggered. Either they are incredibly horny or it's a feeling they have to go for because they never felt that way before. But is there ever a time when the tension can cool down and it will remain as a cool friendship?

When it comes to sex and life can tops and bottoms truly be friends?

You're Never Too Old To Find Love

I said this once and I will say it again. I am a fan of romantic comedies and buddy comedies. I don't care what time of day it is, or even if happens around night time. I will sit there in the theater and enjoy myself.

The one movie that I can't stop thinking about is Something's Gotta Give. It's a romantic comedy directed/produced/written by Nancy Meyers. This is one movie that stand out to me. It centers around the lives of two people who's combined age is near the triple digits. What surprised me was that I am young man who is just entering adulthood, and I could totally relate to what these older people were going through.

I sat there in my bedroom, watching every moment that this couple went through. Even though I was young, their stories touched me. Here is this guy that is a total bachelor. He dates these young women that are decades apart from him. Then after a traumatic heart attack, he stays at his girlfriend's house, where her mother happens to be living in at the moment in order to get some work done. The girlfriend leaves for work. So the two of them are alone. They become good friends at first, but they suddenly get close.

Sadly, they couldn't be together because one of them has never been in love. So he doesn't know how to cope with his feelings. Once he finally realized what love was he fought to get the girl of his dreams. I know it's a very unusual plot, but you can easily relate to this story if you pay close attention to it.

The one thing that I like about this movie is that I hope it puts an end to what people say about love. They always say that they will be lonely forever once they reached thirty. Teenagers say twenty years old is old. There are times when I just want to slap them in the face. I am turning twenty this year and I can't wait for it to come. As I get older, I feel the growth inside of me. I become more responsible and learned more than I thought I would in one year.

So for all the people reaching their twenties, thirties, fourties, and fifties, you are never too old to find true love. Diane Keaton and Jack Nicholson's age was 125 combined by the time they received accolades from this movie. It's never too late for love to come into your life.

Below is the movie trailer of Something's Gotta Give

Friendship or True Love? Which One Is More Important?

There is a new romantic comedy film coming out entitled "Something Borrowed." It's based on the bestselling novel by Emily Giffin. The trailer was just released not too long ago. I have been replaying the trailer for so long right now, it inspired me to write this post and friendships and relationships.

This novel tells the story of two friends named Rachel and Darcey. They have been friends since childhood, but they are both different in many ways. Rachel has been the good girl and best friend of Darcey since childhood. She does anything for Darcey, but has been her shadow for quite some time now.

When it comes to Darcey, she has been the person in center staged almost her whole life. Between the two of them, Darcey always gets what she wants and Rachel just goes with the flow.

Rachel turns thirty and ends up completely drunk. It results in Rachel sleeping with Darcey's fiance, Dexter, who Rachel had a crush on back when they were in law school. The fling turns into an affair, and Rachel has to choose which one is more important to her, friendship or true love.

The entire description of the story made me run out and get this novel. Not only because it's a romantic comedy story, but it's number one theme is friendship. Most people don't realize that friends go through alot more than what couples go through. I hope this novel and the movie will make people want to write more stories about friendships.

There comes a time in each of our lives when we each have to choose between friendship and love. Our friends are people that we treasure most dearly. Your friends have known you for years. They know you inside and out the same way you do when it comes to them. Then love comes into your life and it starts raising alot of questions. Will this relationship change the dynamic of your relationship with your friends.

Will you find a way to balance everything together and still maintain a successful friendship while having a wonderful relationship? Or will you up having to choose which one is more important to you.

When it comes to friendships, which one is more important. Friendship or True Love?

Below is the trailer for "Something Borrowed." The movie comes out May 6.